Holiday Traditions to beat overwhelm

The festive season has a way of stirring up a whirlwind of emotions. It’s a time wrapped in traditions, family gatherings, and a fair share of self-imposed expectations. This year, I’ve been reflecting on how these elements shape our experiences and, often, the choices we make. Let’s pause together and look back on the journey of the past year.

Take a moment to consider:

• One thing you are grateful you tried.

• One thing you wish you hadn’t (but are still grateful for because it taught you something).

• A situation where you stayed too long.

• A situation where you didn’t stay long enough.

Now, think about what motivated you in each of those situations. Were you trying to meet someone else’s expectations? Were you leaning on tradition because it felt safe? Or were you taking a bold step toward something new?

It’s easy to fall into the habit of doing things to please others, especially during the holidays. Whether it’s cooking the same meal your family expects, attending every event you’re invited to, or buying gifts that stretch your budget, the default is often to make others happy. It’s how we stay in our lane, keep the peace, and feel like we’re honoring the season.

But what about you?

When I look back I see a common thread. Those moments of regret—the things I wish I hadn’t done—often come down to prioritising someone else’s perceived needs over my own. I played the roles of victim, hero, and even the centerpiece of unnecessary drama, instead of focusing on what truly lights me up. And isn’t that the point of any journey? To learn from the wrong turns, celebrate the joy, and find the road that feels right?

The Weight of Expectations

This time of year, the expectations we place on ourselves can feel heavier than usual. The perfect meal. The ideal gift. The spotless home ready for guests. These things are often rooted in tradition—a sense of how the holidays "should" look. But when we strip back those layers, are those expectations bringing us joy? Or are they just another item on an ever-growing to-do list?

Creating New Traditions

As we navigate the holidays, it’s worth considering how we can create new traditions—ones that reflect who we are now and the lives we want to live. Maybe it’s taking a quiet morning to yourself before the festivities begin. Or simplifying the menu so you can spend more time enjoying the day. It could even be saying "no" to a tradition that no longer serves you.

This isn’t about throwing everything out. Traditions have value,they connect us to our loved ones and our history. But there’s power in giving yourself permission to evolve those traditions, to make space for your own joy alongside the happiness of others.

A Challenge for You

So, as you wade through the wrapping paper, the gatherings, and the to-do lists, take a moment for yourself. Create a tradition that is just for you. It might feel small, but it could become the anchor that keeps you grounded during the chaos. And when you look back on this year, you might find that this small shift was the start of something bigger.

The holidays are about connection—to others, yes, but also to you!